The Myth of Protecting People from Suffering
When we try to shield people from pain in an effort to not break their hearts, we end up doing just the opposite.
‘Daddy, Daddy, Where Are You?’
After 9/11 my son asked for his father dozens of times a day, everyday — for nine years.
No Unfinished Business?
I’ll never know what my father would have thought about my life choices — the ones I would have asked his opinion about and the ones I wouldn’t have.
Are You My Papi?
As a young man, I lost my father to AIDS-related illness. Now I search for echoes of him in the men I choose to love.
Random Acts of Dadness
From rejecting perfectly good restaurant food to donating to worthy causes, I'm spending the first Father's Day after my dad's death trying to emulate his character.
Gold Star Widow
At my first Memorial Day conference for military families, I found kindred spirits among the brokenhearted.
7 Tips for Speaking with a Bereaved Mother
How do you support someone going through the unimaginable? To begin with, don't say you can't imagine what they're going through.