Are You My Papi?
As a young man, I lost my father to AIDS-related illness. Now I search for echoes of him in the men I choose to love.
Mizuko Kuyo: Japan’s Powerful Pregnancy Loss Ritual
At a Buddhist temple far from home, this ceremony provided me solace.
Why I Told Anne Lamott My Husband Died
I promised myself I wouldn’t, but then I opened up to a writer I’ve long admired about the most surreal, unbelievable thing that has ever happened to me.
A Year of Grief, 15 Seconds at a Time
After my dad's murder, Instagram served as both my grief counselor and a surprising professional outlet.
We Left Everything Unsaid
When my husband got sick, we focused exclusively on hope; when he died, I was consumed with regret.
Tips For Getting Through the Holidays When You’re Totally Sad
Maybe someday the season won’t feel like someone is taking a melon baller to my heart, but for now getting through it is about knowing what to avoid and what to embrace.
‘Daddy, Daddy, Where Are You?’
After 9/11 my son asked for his father dozens of times a day, everyday — for nine years.