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Saying No to the Fourth

After my mother died July 4th weekend, I tried to keep celebrating the holiday with cookouts and fireworks — until I found a better way.

Mom’s Memory Was My ‘Something Blue’

by Marisa Renee Lee

How I incorporated my late mother into my wedding celebration. Plus, great tips for memorializing a loved one at your nuptials.

Laundry, Before and After

by Jacqueline Dooley

I used to resent the endless sorting, washing and folding. Then my daughter got sick — and everything changed.

Becoming My Father — For My Son

by Geoffrey W. Melada

I cannot rescue my dad, but I can mentor my child.

‘I Am A Widower’

by Michael Flamini

The Supreme Court ruled in favor of same sex marriage on what would have been my 28th anniversary with my partner. Though we were never able to marry, I consider myself a widower.

Grief Looks a Lot Like 'Crazy'

And other things the Netflix series 'Dead to Me' gets right about young widowhood. (No spoilers here.)

Why I'm Jealous of Grieving People

by Nicole Ferraro

Dad died when I was 6, and life went on seemingly undeterred. All these years later, I find myself envious of those who have the chance to mourn.

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My Mom’s Violent Death Gave Me PTSD by Erin Donovan I had to remind myself, repeatedly, that my mom was dead. If I can imagine what it feels like to have dementia, this might be it. Having to be told the same bad news again and again and again.
How To Write an Obituary: A Primer by Jule Banville The tips you need for crafting a compelling true-life story (plus: examples of obits that got it right).
The Myth of Protecting People from Suffering by Jennifer Pastiloff When we try to shield people from pain in an effort to not break their hearts, we end up doing just the opposite.
No Unfinished Business? by Angie Dalfen I’ll never know what my father would have thought about my life choices — the ones I would have asked his opinion about and the ones I wouldn’t have.
Are You My Papi? by Mathew Rodriguez As a young man, I lost my father to AIDS-related illness. Now I search for echoes of him in the men I choose to love.
Random Acts of Dadness by Rob Kutner From rejecting perfectly good restaurant food to donating to worthy causes, I'm spending the first Father's Day after my dad's death trying to emulate his character.
Gold Star Widow by Artis Henderson At my first Memorial Day conference for military families, I found kindred spirits among the brokenhearted.

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