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Animal Husbandry for Dragons
By Kate Inglis
What if we try caring for our pain, instead of trying to control it?
On Teaching Writing Through Grief
By Debbie Leaman
I teach others how to tell their saddest stories. But when it came to my own brother’s loss, the words wouldn’t come — until they did.
Having a Dead Sibling Is Full of Contradictions
By Anne Pinkerton
It’s been a decade since my brother died. His death has shaped me and it has confounded me — with its curses and blessings, too.
A Day in the Life of My Grief — Illustrated
By Kellyn Shoecraft
In which I wonder, 'How can all 19 Duggars be alive and I lost my only sister?'
His Sister Was Dying as We Were Falling in Love
By Katharine Herrup
I learned of her illness shortly after our first date. Her absence remains a presence still.
My Brother’s Christmas-Themed Funeral
By Gina DeMillo Wagner
Alan lived with a rare genetic disorder that made him unpredictable, child-like and full of wonder. When he died at age 43, his memorial service was unique as he was.
The Good China That Will Outlive Us All
By Gina Luongo
After my mom’s death and my sister’s suicide, the dishes they left behind are newly sentimental.
What I Still Can’t Do
Ten months after my sister’s death, I can laugh and smile. I can sometimes care about other people’s problems. I can’t listen to voicemails or write thank you notes or stop waiting for the other shoe to drop.
ASK MODERN LOSS: Do My Kids Need a New Male Role Model?
By Meg Tansey
A single mom by choice asks our advice columnist what to do now that her brother and father are gone.
My Instagram Therapy
By Domenique Osborne
With @textsforjohn, I can still walk through the world looking for things to share with my brother — even though he’s no longer here.
Bereavement Group Dropout
By Teresa Strasser
Around a table full of widow-baked cookies, I absorbed the most profound of all death clichés, and I was done.
It’s Katie Fisher Day!
By Matt Fisher
Starting a cookie-baking social media memorial holiday would have been a strange move for anyone, but perhaps stranger for me than most.
Ilana and Aaron are celebrating 9 years of friendship on Facebook!
By Ilana Sichel
Thing is, Aaron is dead.
The Stoic’s Guide to the Holidays
An emotional clam wishes he could take his own advice for enduring the festivities with loss.
Life’s Too Short to Wear Beige
By Heidi Blum
I was a closeted gay woman surrounded by white-hued walls and yearning for my own colorful world. My sister's death changed everything.
The Best Things in My Life Came From My Brother’s Death
By Natasha Noman
The best things in my life really did come out of my brother's death.
Riding and Hiding in My Griefmobile
By Sarah Kravits
No matter how intense my feelings, my car always comes to the rescue, with available music, clean tissues, and much-needed privacy.
My Sister, The Fly
By Julissa Catalan
The most persistent house fly entered my world the same day my sister left it. But what I didn’t realize was that my sister hadn’t actually left.
Take a Breather
By Dr. Jude Black
And 4 other grief therapist-approved tips for surviving Christmas after a loss.
My parents and I aren't in a Thanksgiving mood after my brother's sudden death. Other relatives disagree. How can we can ditch the holiday in style?
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