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21 Things I Hate — and Love — About Being a Widow
By Karen Paul
Few things in life are black and white, especially in the wake of a death.
By Judy Bolton-Fasman
My father was scary to me except on Valentine’s Day. When he died, those treacly annual expressions of fatherly love went with him.
The Modern Loss Holiday Gift Guide — 2018
By Modern Loss
From scalp whisks to s’mores to soups that arrive at your doorstep, these gifts for the grieving say ‘the holidays are rough, but I love you.’
By Noa Silver
I shared our pregnancy news early — asserting that I wanted my community with me in joy, but also in potential sorrow. Now that I had miscarried, there were so many calls to make.
Saying No to the Fourth
By Ruth Oliver
After my mother died July 4th weekend, I tried to keep celebrating the holiday with cookouts and fireworks — until I found a better way.
Purple Rain on Father’s Day
By Janine Annett
My dad and the rock star Prince had everything and nothing in common. This is the time of year I feel their absence most acutely.
Our Christmas Décor Became a Metaphor for My Grief
By Sarah Vallely
What is the protocol for embroidering a Christmas story that stops abruptly in the second chapter?
Tips For Getting Through the Holidays When You’re Totally Sad
By Erin Donovan
Maybe someday the season won’t feel like someone is taking a melon baller to my heart, but for now getting through it is about knowing what to avoid and what to embrace.
DNA and Middle C
By Rebecca Odes
My son's resemblance to my father was always striking. But after my dad died, it took on new meaning.
Random Acts of Dadness
By Rob Kutner
From rejecting perfectly good restaurant food to donating to worthy causes, I'm spending the first Father's Day after my dad's death trying to emulate his character.
The Modern Loss Mother’s Day Gift Swap
By Rebecca Soffer
Missing someone special on the Hallmark holiday? Sign up to send a gift to (and receive one from!) someone else who is, too.
A Widow and her Galentines
By Debbie Weiss
After my husband died, I stumbled about looking for my tribe. Counterintuitive to my nature, I found it in yoga class.
In Defense of Magic
By Eric Meyer
The winter holiday rituals have soothed our grieving souls. So has our son's belief in Santa.
The Stoic’s Guide to the Holidays
By Matt Fisher
An emotional clam wishes he could take his own advice for enduring the festivities with loss.
I’m Done Hanging Stockings for Dead People
By Madeleine Deliee
For the past 7 years, holiday decorations reminded me only of who was missing. This year, I said ‘enough.’
Grief Is a Change Agent
By Meg Tansey
This Thanksgiving, don’t normalize your grief. Turn it into a catalyst.
21 Things You Probably Don’t Know About My Dead Dad
No. 9: If he loved you, he'd write you an insanely clever poem for every birthday, milestone or minor holiday.
20 Things You Probably Don’t Know About My Dead Dad
By Gabrielle Birkner
He never met my children, but they will know him through the photos, scrapbooks and stories of those who knew and loved him best. Through me.
A Father’s Day Sale for the Recently Deceased Dad
By Alison Zeidman
I keep getting emails from Bed Bath & Beyond reminding me that “It’s Not Too Late To Find the Perfect Father’s Day Gift!” But in this case, it kind of is.
Why I’m Jealous of Grieving People
By Nicole Ferraro
Dad died when I was 6, and life went on seemingly undeterred. All these years later, I find myself envious of those who have the chance to mourn.
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