Candid conversation about grief. Beginners welcome.
How I Rediscovered My Professional Drive After a Stillbirth
By Katie Irish and Rebecca Soffer
For “The Americans” costume designer, returning to work turned out to mean more than just punching the clock
The Ugliest Side of Grief
By Dalit Kaplan and Rebecca Soffer
Jealousy is already a tough emotion to grapple with. Pairing it with a stillbirth brings out a whole new monster.
‘Grief Is Something You Live in and Then Eventually It Lives in You’
By Allison Yarrow
Writer Ariel Levy on her son's birth, death and what she considers grief's most valuable lesson.
The Stillbirth Status Updates I Really Wanted to Write
By Jennifer Pardini
Here's what I really wanted to write about my pregnancy loss: mother of two, one living.
7 Tips for Speaking with a Bereaved Mother
By Monica Wesolowska
How do you support someone going through the unimaginable? To begin with, don't say you can't imagine what they're going through.
My Stillbirth Experience Changed the Way I (Don’t) Plan
By Katie Irish
The daughter I had so many plans for was stillborn. Now I have a healthy baby, but I don't let myself imagine the future.
Recap: Our Día de Los Muertos Event
By Rebecca Soffer
Members of Modern Loss' New York community came out for a film screening, followed by sugar-laden Día de los Muertos treats (plus drinks, of course).
‘Wish You Were Here’
By Andrea Meyer
My daughter, Nina, died five weeks before she was due to be born. Years on, I am surprised by the depth of pain her absence brings me.
The Words We Couldn’t Say
By Megan Birch-McMichael
As my daughter grew inside of me, my best friend's pregnancy ended in stillbirth. Comforting her felt impossible.
Writing the Story My Mother Never Got to Tell
By Samuel G. Freedman
Long after her death, I used the tools of journalism to reckon with memory, regret, and love.
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Springing Into Grief
By Kristen Forbes
How to appreciate those gerberas when someone you love may actually be pushing them up
Two Minus One
By Sarah Kravits
I always defined myself as an older sister to a younger brother. But after his sudden death in our 40s, I’m struggling to identify as an only child.
7 Ways To Accommodate Little Kids at a Funeral
By Megan Carmichael and Rebecca Soffer
Having my kids at my mom’s funeral was the right thing for our family. Here’s what helped.
‘Everything Happens for a Reason’ Is Not a Thing
By Gabrielle Birkner
And other lessons therapist Lori Gottlieb, the author of ‘Maybe You Should Talk To Someone,’ learned from her patients who are grieving — and those who are dying.
My Landlord Died From Cancer While We Sheltered In Place Together
By Faith Holloway
What it felt like to watch her slow, surreal demise during a slow, surreal moment in the world.
How to Brush Your Teeth While Grieving in a Pandemic
By Mel Zee
I’m an ex-addict grieving my partner’s sudden death. Thanks to COVID-19 isolation, all my comfort must come from within.
Grief Is My Neurodivergence
By Elizabeth Kopple
I had trouble relating to my son’s ADHD – until my muddled mind schooled me after his sudden death.
Chemo Stole My Dad’s Hearing. Then, My Daughter Heard Her First Sound.
By Evan Wolkenstein
Our family’s circular journey through cochlear implants, loss, and good vibrations.
My Boyfriend Died — and There’s No Word for My Loss
By Rachel Bartkowiak
He was the man I had hoped to marry, but others see our relationship in more ambiguous terms.
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