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It’s The Worst Wonderful Time of The Year
By Holly Stayton
I'm heading into my first 'festive' seasonal stretch after my husband's death and have no clue what I'll do. Weirdly, that's ok.
My Brother’s Christmas-Themed Funeral
By Gina DeMillo Wagner
Alan lived with a rare genetic disorder that made him unpredictable, child-like and full of wonder. When he died at age 43, his memorial service was unique as he was.
The Christmas Anthem I Needed To Hear
By Diane Shipley
I spent years avoiding the favorite song a friend lost to suicide. But last December, I listened anew.
The Modern Loss Holiday Gift Guide — 2018
By Modern Loss
From scalp whisks to s’mores to soups that arrive at your doorstep, these gifts for the grieving say ‘the holidays are rough, but I love you.’
Our Christmas Décor Became a Metaphor for My Grief
By Sarah Vallely
What is the protocol for embroidering a Christmas story that stops abruptly in the second chapter?
A Very Brady Christmas (But Way More Complicated)
By Meg Tansey
A newly engaged widow wants to know how to manage her bereaved in-laws' expectations this season. Our advice columnist weighs in.
Tips For Getting Through the Holidays When You’re Totally Sad
By Erin Donovan
Maybe someday the season won’t feel like someone is taking a melon baller to my heart, but for now getting through it is about knowing what to avoid and what to embrace.
In Defense of Magic
By Eric Meyer
The winter holiday rituals have soothed our grieving souls. So has our son's belief in Santa.
The Stoic’s Guide to the Holidays
By Matt Fisher
An emotional clam wishes he could take his own advice for enduring the festivities with loss.
I’m Done Hanging Stockings for Dead People
By Madeleine Deliee
For the past 7 years, holiday decorations reminded me only of who was missing. This year, I said ‘enough.’
Take a Breather
By Dr. Jude Black
And 4 other grief therapist-approved tips for surviving Christmas after a loss.
The Grinch in Your Mailbox?
Should a holiday letter say how much pain you're in? Our advice columnist weighs in.
The End of My Self-Pity Party
By Michael Cohen
Life with my partner felt like finally being invited to the ball. Since his death, I've spent too long insistent on feeling devalued.
Merry — Not So Much
Our advice columnist weighs in on holiday shopping for the bereaved, what to do when Christmas parties are grief triggers and more.
’Twas the Fight Before Christmas
By Tré Miller Rodríguez
When it came to decorating the tree, my late husband and I didn’t exactly see eye-to eye.
Putting the Satan Back in Christmas
By Carole Newton McManus
The holiday season may bring up all kinds of memories when you’re grieving. But what if your loved one was more Scrooge than Santa?
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