Articles by Rebecca Soffer

Two people sitting outdoors looking through old Polaroid photographs together, with one person holding up several photos to view.

How to Create an Online Memorial (At Any Point After Loss)

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There's no deadline for this. Here's how to begin.

What Happens When We Miss Grief on Campus

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Grief doesn't wait for graduation. UGrieve helps students and faculty support each other through loss.

Estate Planning for the Griefy, Busy, Avoidant, and Human

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Estate planning without spiraling, procrastinating forever, or leaving your people a bureaucratic mess

How Long Should Grief Last?

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Some thoughts in response to the DSM-V's newest disorder.

How a Tiny Pack of Cards Helped My Kids to Know Me Better

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It’s been tough to carve out time for meaningful conversations during the pandemic. This is how I’ve done it.

Dear President Biden, It’s Time for a National Bereavement Leave Policy

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If the pandemic has proven anything, it's that we all need security in times of loss.

Modern Loss 2020 gift guide

A Gift Guide for Grievers (and Those Who Love Them)

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From ego-boosting apparel to frame-worthy puzzles to an instant community, these gifts say ‘I know the holidays are rough, and I'm here for you.'

Modern Loss Self Care

It’s Time to Build Your Self-Care Routine

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Grief gives us little control over ourselves, so it’s vital to control what we can by nourishing our needs. Here are some ideas.

How a Simple Set of Cards Brought Me Surprisingly Closer to My People

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In these physically distanced times, meaningful conversations have kept my sanity afloat.

Scenes from a Dead Mom Graphic Memoir

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From cliché grief remedies that actually work to 'reaction bingo,' our favorite cartoons from 'Dancing at the Pity Party'

Triggered by a Celebrity’s Death? Here are 7 Ways to Care for Yourself and Others

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Public figures are deeply connected to our own lives and grieving their loss can be complicated. Here's a basic roadmap.

Live From New York, It’s Modern Loss!

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We laughed, we cried, it was better than 'Cats.'

Dani Shapiro Modern Loss

‘Take Ownership of What You’ve Discovered’

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Writer Dani Shapiro opens up about secrets, healing through exploring, and the thrill of of the word “million.”

The Good China That Will Outlive Us All

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After my mom’s death and my sister’s suicide, the dishes they left behind are newly sentimental.

Grief-Inspired Jewelry

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From lapel pins to cremains jewelry, these accessories can help honor loss with something beautiful.

Grief Bacon: Breastfeeding Through My Grief

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After Dad died, my body felt numb, but my breasts soldiered on.

Traveling the World With My Daughter’s Ashes in Tow

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In Ireland, alongside an empathic stranger, I watched Rachel's cremains scatter with the wind. 

Had My Dog Come Back as a Squirrel? 

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My beloved beagle died, but he still seemed to inhabit our yard.

We All Have ‘That Ex.’ Mine Died.

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What it means to lose somebody who isn’t your somebody anymore.

7 Ways To Accommodate Little Kids at a Funeral

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Having my kids at my mom’s funeral was the right thing for our family. Here’s what helped.

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