Articles by Rebecca Soffer

Modern Loss 2020 gift guide

A Gift Guide for Grievers (and Those Who Love Them)

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From ego-boosting apparel to frame-worthy puzzles to an instant community, these gifts say ‘I know the holidays are rough, and I'm here for you.'

Modern Loss Self Care

It’s Time to Build Your Self-Care Routine

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Grief gives us little control over ourselves, so it’s vital to control what we can by nourishing our needs. Here are some ideas.

How a Simple Set of Cards Brought Me Surprisingly Closer to My People

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In these physically distanced times, meaningful conversations have kept my sanity afloat.

Scenes from a Dead Mom Graphic Memoir

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From cliché grief remedies that actually work to 'reaction bingo,' our favorite cartoons from 'Dancing at the Pity Party'

Triggered by a Celebrity’s Death? Here are 7 Ways to Care for Yourself and Others

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Public figures are deeply connected to our own lives and grieving their loss can be complicated. Here's a basic roadmap.

Live From New York, It’s Modern Loss!

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We laughed, we cried, it was better than 'Cats.'

Dani Shapiro Modern Loss

‘Take Ownership of What You’ve Discovered’

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Writer Dani Shapiro opens up about secrets, healing through exploring, and the thrill of of the word “million.”

The Good China That Will Outlive Us All

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After my mom’s death and my sister’s suicide, the dishes they left behind are newly sentimental.

Grief-Inspired Jewelry

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From lapel pins to cremains jewelry, these accessories can help honor loss with something beautiful.

Grief Bacon: Breastfeeding Through My Grief

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After Dad died, my body felt numb, but my breasts soldiered on.

Traveling the World With My Daughter’s Ashes in Tow

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In Ireland, alongside an empathic stranger, I watched Rachel's cremains scatter with the wind. 

Had My Dog Come Back as a Squirrel? 

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My beloved beagle died, but he still seemed to inhabit our yard.

The Pittsburgh of My Dreams

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By day, I am aware that 23 years have passed since my father’s death. When I close my eyes, it’s a different story.

We All Have ‘That Ex.’ Mine Died.

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What it means to lose somebody who isn’t your somebody anymore.

Screening Calls for My Dead Son

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‘Sorry, he’s not here.’ You have no idea how sorry I am Eric’s not here.

Saving the Date for a Wedding That Will Never Take Place

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I was supposed to be married on November 9, but tragedy stopped this self-proclaimed ‘Bridezilla’ in her tracks.

Meet My ‘Dead Mom Friends’ 

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I’ve found kinship (but no judgment or pity) among my friends — and even acquaintances — who have also experienced a loss of a parent. 

7 Ways To Accommodate Little Kids at a Funeral

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Having my kids at my mom’s funeral was the right thing for our family. Here’s what helped.

Grieving in a Broken Body

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I was badly injured in the accident that killed my mother. Never was I more at peace with her death than in those six months between the funeral and when I started walking again.

Built for Two, But Minus One

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Grief is one of the deep intimacies of our marriage. Our tandem riding reflects that.

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