Candid conversation about grief. Beginners welcome.
My Therapist Is No Longer a Phone Call Away
By Wendy Cowen-Smith
She counseled me through my young husband's death, through raising children, blending families, and so much more. Now she's gone.
I Am a ‘Tragedy Trust Funder’
By Jen Parsons
A modest surprise inheritance from my late husband allows me to raise my two young kids without having to go to work. So why do I feel so guilty about it?
We Left Everything Unsaid
By Elaine Roth
When my husband got sick, we focused exclusively on hope; when he died, I was consumed with regret.
Searching for Signs
By Zoe Fishman
The ninja squirrel in my kitchen wasn't my late husband saying 'hello.' It was a reminder of my new, unwanted role: single mother.
It’s All ‘Grief Yoga’
By Alison Manheim
After my husband died, I brought a towel to exercise class to mop tears — not sweat.
Grief Looks a Lot Like ‘Crazy’
By Julia Cho
And other things the Netflix series 'Dead to Me' gets right about young widowhood. (No spoilers here.)
‘Smad’ and Other Words Born of Grief
By Fernanda Santos
In the year since my husband died, there have been many lessons — and a few new vocabulary words.
Cable News (Support) Network
By Karen Conner
The year after my husband died, Mika, Rachel and Lawrence kept me company.
Why I Told Anne Lamott My Husband Died
I promised myself I wouldn’t, but then I opened up to a writer I’ve long admired about the most surreal, unbelievable thing that has ever happened to me.
When My Husband Died, Facebook Became My Boyfriend
By Lauren Jones
Some people see social media as a trigger during times of great suffering. But after my husband died, it helped me stay afloat amid my grief.
That Could Have Been Us
By Marjorie Brimley
It can be painful to see people so obviously in love when I’m breaking inside, but it’s not other young couples that make me fall apart.
What I Did With My Husband’s Life Insurance Money
By Leslie Gray Streeter
During the rawest moments of my grief, what I bought helped me breathe easier.
The Autopsy Report Should Have Been Anticlimactic. It Was Anything But.
By Margaret Feike
My beloved husband died, leaving me with three children and another on the way. But it was a letter from the coroner’s office that did me in.
The Bread I Still Can’t Bear To Bake
By Lisa Kolb
Some people say grief is bitter, but I say it is nutty whole-wheat flavored, slightly sweet with molasses.
My Wedding Gown’s Last Dance
By Lucy Kalanithi
In an excerpt from the new Modern Loss book, Lucy Kalanithi, the widow of "When Breath Becomes Air" memoirist Paul Kalanithi, describes leaving her bridal gown behind — in the most unconventional of settings.
Our Double-Widowed ‘I Love You’
Goodbye used to mean until later that day. But for my fiancé and me, respective tragedies have rewired our brains.
‘Holy Shit, I’m Single Again’
By Teresa Shimogawa
When the fog of my grief lifted and I began to think about dating, my old insecurities returned in a big way.
Our Christmas Décor Became a Metaphor for My Grief
By Sarah Vallely
What is the protocol for embroidering a Christmas story that stops abruptly in the second chapter?
My Father Is My Grief Mentor
By Debbie Weiss
Dad raised me on his own after Mom died. So when I, too, lost my spouse young, he showed me how to find happiness again.
Meet the Widex
By Stacey Freed
Eight years after we divorced, my sons’ father was dead — and I went from the ex to something more complicated.
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