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Resilience column Ask Modern Loss, Adam Grant

‘Resilient’ Is Not a Four Letter Word

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Our guest 'Ask ML' columnist and 'Option B' coauthor Adam Grant on bite-sized — and big — ways to embrace post-traumatic growth.

Modern Loss Fathers Day

A Father’s Day Sale for the Recently Deceased Dad

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I keep getting emails from Bed Bath & Beyond reminding me that “It’s Not Too Late To Find the Perfect Father’s Day Gift!” But in this case, it kind of is.

Modern Loss Going Home

Going Home

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After my dad's death, now it just feels like a house.

The Best Things in My Life Came From My Brother’s Death

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The best things in my life really did come out of my brother's death.

Life’s Too Short to Wear Beige

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I was a closeted gay woman surrounded by white-hued walls and yearning for my own colorful world. My sister's death changed everything.

Why I Like Funerals More Than Weddings

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"Four Weddings and a Funeral"? I'd rather watch "Four Funerals and a Wedding."

A Physical Place to Mourn a Virtual Friendship

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My friend and I encountered each other over social media and business travel. So it was complicated when he died, but my daily routine didn't change.

After a Teenager’s Death, Metaphors Fail

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My friend's 16-year-old daughter was hit by a car and I struggled to write about it. Because no words can truly encapsulate the zero of grief.

Does Moving Away Mitigate Grief?

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Thousands of miles now separate me from the landmarks of my memories with Dad. Here's what the distance has changed — and what it hasn't.

The Billy Joel Concert That Saved Me

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By taking me to that show, what remained of my family in the aftermath of my son’s suicide was telling me, ‘Please come back to us. We still need you.’

The Lights and Lessons of Toro Nagashi, the Japanese Candle Boat Ceremony

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I missed a lifelong friend’s funeral. But I honored him all the same.

Vacant Seats

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I heard about Justice Scalia’s death at one of my last dinners with my beloved, if complicated, father. Months on, as the justice’s seat sat unfilled, so did Dad’s.

The Lie We Tell Ourselves About Mental Health

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My mom's suicide taught me that there is no clear line dividing those who are of sound mind from those who are not.

That Would Have Been a Great Story

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My high school boyfriend and I lost our respective spouses just months apart — and reconnected over our grief. I would like to be able to say that we fell back in love and lived happily ever after. Something else unfolded.

Operation Orchid

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Grandpa was totally dead. In his honor, I decided to bring my mostly dead orchids back to life.

Bring Soup, Not Salad

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And other rules for feeding mourners from a pair of foodies who’ve been there.

Losing My Son’s ‘First Mommy’

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When the troubled woman who gave birth to my little boy died at age 31, I realized just how much I’d been riding on her imagined recovery.

When the Grim Reaper Visited My High School

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Decades later, a favorite teacher’s death resonates still.

Remembering Grandma as She Really Was

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Some guidelines for memorializing someone at the end of a long and debilitating illness

Weaver Modern Loss

My Dad Died From Cancer — So I Made a Movie About It

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Thing is, expressing loss through art didn't heal my wound. It just exposed it to everyone, in feature-length format.

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