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The Good Work of Providing Good Food for Solace

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Some delicious and nourishing ways to lift the burden of cooking from a grieving person's shoulders.

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‘Resilient’ Is Not a Four Letter Word

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Our guest 'Ask ML' columnist and 'Option B' coauthor Adam Grant on bite-sized — and big — ways to embrace post-traumatic growth.

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Going Home

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After my dad's death, now it just feels like a house.

The Best Things in My Life Came From My Brother’s Death

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The best things in my life really did come out of my brother's death.

Life’s Too Short to Wear Beige

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I was a closeted gay woman surrounded by white-hued walls and yearning for my own colorful world. My sister's death changed everything.

Why I Like Funerals More Than Weddings

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"Four Weddings and a Funeral"? I'd rather watch "Four Funerals and a Wedding."

A Physical Place to Mourn a Virtual Friendship

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My friend and I encountered each other over social media and business travel. So it was complicated when he died, but my daily routine didn't change.

The Surviving Spouse’s Guide to Surviving a Hallmark Holiday

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4 ways to give yourself what you deserve on Valentine’s Day — and every day — when you’re missing a dead partner.

‘Querida Amor’

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My father was scary to me except on Valentine’s Day. When he died, those treacly annual expressions of fatherly love went with him.

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My Big Black Sunglasses

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I bought a pair to shield myself during my mother's demise. Little did I know they'd lovingly do so through all types of loss.

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Welcome to New York

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Suddenly worth half a million dollars through the dumb luck of my dad's death, I rooted myself to a new and unfamiliar home.

How I’m Dealing with Climate Grief

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Sometimes I'm grateful my mom is dead—she gets to avoid witnessing the devastation on Earth. Getting involved in climate justice has given me hope.

After a Teenager’s Death, Metaphors Fail

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My friend's 16-year-old daughter was hit by a car and I struggled to write about it. Because no words can truly encapsulate the zero of grief.

Does Moving Away Mitigate Grief?

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Thousands of miles now separate me from the landmarks of my memories with Dad. Here's what the distance has changed — and what it hasn't.

The Billy Joel Concert That Saved Me

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By taking me to that show, what remained of my family in the aftermath of my son’s suicide was telling me, ‘Please come back to us. We still need you.’

The Lights and Lessons of Toro Nagashi, the Japanese Candle Boat Ceremony

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I missed a lifelong friend’s funeral. But I honored him all the same.

Vacant Seats

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I heard about Justice Scalia’s death at one of my last dinners with my beloved, if complicated, father. Months on, as the justice’s seat sat unfilled, so did Dad’s.

The Museum of ‘Before’

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My mother's Facebook profile has become a small souvenir of life (and her) before she got sick.

The Lie We Tell Ourselves About Mental Health

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My mom's suicide taught me that there is no clear line dividing those who are of sound mind from those who are not.

That Would Have Been a Great Story

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My high school boyfriend and I lost our respective spouses just months apart — and reconnected over our grief. I would like to be able to say that we fell back in love and lived happily ever after. Something else unfolded.

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