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After My Husband’s Death, I Found Myself Again through Mr. Mister and Mexico

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The cathartic power of briefly shedding the label of 'grieving widow with young kids' and briefly feeling free

When ‘Fine’ Is Anything But

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After my father's death, my journey from calm, to hysterical, to something even worse.

The Hot Tears, Red-Blotches-on-Your-Face, Autopilot Sides of Grief

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What I learned about the natural range of emotions after my sister's and mom's deaths

How Long Should Grief Last?

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Some thoughts in response to the DSM-V's newest disorder.

Shane Hawkins

How Shane Hawkins and the Foo Fighters United Us in Grief

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Taylor Hawkins' son poured everything into each slam of the sticks. When words fail, music comes through – and pulls us all in.

Why I’m Jealous of Grieving People

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Dad died when I was 6, and life went on seemingly undeterred. All these years later, I find myself envious of those who have the chance to mourn.

We Held a Fake Wedding So My Dying Dad Could Be There

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Bridal magazines don’t really cover these unglamorous issues.

To the Widowed Dad on Father’s Day

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Being a ‘good enough’ parent is precisely what your grieving children need.

Rules for Father’s Day

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I find joy in what was. What might have been is more painful. 

Taylor Hawkins

My Advice for Alison Hawkins

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Through interviewing 'rock widows,' I've learned being the partner of a famous musician has different elements of grief.

Dad-Die Issues

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Death brings up so many feelings and conversations. Plans to be made. Legacies to cement. I had none of that.

Grieving in Blue

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After my mom died, I discovered a world of new meaning in my favorite color.

‘You Are Only as Good as the People You Surround Yourself With’

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I was desperate to be wild in grief and my coke-snorting bestie was my ticket to fun.

Young Widowhood in the Time of Corona 

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While we’re 'all in this together,' my experience is very much my own. Here's how I am learning to navigate the space between personal and collective grief. 

A Sacred, Unlikely Friendship, Maintained Through Terrifying Times

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At 87, my friend Ned narrowly escaped Covid-19's invasion of his nursing home. Here's what it made me realize.

What It Feels Like to Be Older Than My Father

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I've never stopped crying for all that he has missed. But as I passed the age at which he died, something changed.

How I’m Making Mother’s Day My Bitch

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I've spent years wallowing on this Hallmark holiday, missing my dead mom. This time, though, I'm making it my own.

My Mother’s Day Trifecta

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I lost my mom, my stepmom, and my dream of mothering a child of my own. On Mother’s Day, people say the darndest things to me.

Chronicles of a Former Crier

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We never know who we’ll be in grief. In mine, the disappearance of my go-to tears was a shock.

The Vaccine Wasn’t Ready in Time to Save Mom

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In the minutes after getting my jab, it was hard not to think about time. If my mother had fallen now instead of then, she likely would have already received her COVID shots.

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