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Modern Loss Self Care

It’s Time to Build Your Self-Care Routine

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Grief gives us little control over ourselves, so it’s vital to control what we can by nourishing our needs. Here are some ideas.

Countdown to Forever

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Sydney, the dog my ex and I share, is dying. How do I say goodbye? 

Miscarriage after IVF - Modern Loss

I Had a Miscarriage After IVF

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A year later, I still can't bring myself to try the process again.

How Day of the Dead Gave Me Life

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Embracing the Mexican tradition helped me deal with my anger after my mom's death.

What I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Grieving Self

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45 years after my mom died, I finally know the impact of loss across time.

Saying Kaddish Into the Screen

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After my father died, a weekly memorial gathering connected me to community when I needed it most. Then came COVID.

The GOP Won’t Stop Texting My Dead Dad

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My father died before the pandemic and the election season's fever pitch. Now, every political ping reminds me of the first time we were truly divided.

Hoe Ik Het Rouwvocabulaire Maak Dat Mist in Onze Taal

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Sterkte. Dat is wat we in het Nederlands zeggen om elkaar kracht te wensen als er iets moeilijks is gebeurd. We wensen elkaar nooit zachtheid of de openheid om het allemaal te kunnen ervaren.

How I’m Creating the Grief Vocabulary My Language Doesn’t Have

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The Dutch wish each other strength to move through tough times. But in loss, we need different words of support.

My Little Fictions Legacy

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Dad applied his gifts for narrative to everything from pornography to children's stories. One of those brought my son and him together after he died.

‘Call It Grief and Then See if it Changes How You View it’

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Grief can have a clarifying effect, a way of lasering away the mundane. Here's how you can apply some lessons from loss to this year's surreal new world.

How I Found an Unexpected Gift in the Berkshire Hills

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My New York City apartment ceased being a happy place after my partner died. Over the years, and especially during this pandemic, my second home became my salvation.

‘The Only Way Out Is Through’

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I was 18 when my dad died and not one member of my supportive South Asian network recommended therapy. Here's why they should have.

‘Your Papa Is Right Here’

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After my husband died, an old friend asked me what he could offer me, beyond words. I thought of something that our young sons could treasure.

My Relationship With My Dad Changed After My Mom Died

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Here's what I learned about embracing a new dynamic with a surviving parent.

12 Diverse YA Books That Taught Me About Grief

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I turned to the genre for a distraction and got so much more.

Zoey’s Extraordinarily Misguided Playlist

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How the musical TV show could have struck the right notes but didn't

He Told Me to Get On With My Life — and Now, I Have

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10 years after my husband's suicide and a slew of shockingly unexpected struggles, I am finally living in the here and now.

After a Mother’s Death, Drawing All The Things

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Art speaks volumes when words fail, and especially in 'The Imaginary Library.'

A Widowed Mother’s Day à la COVID-19

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In the midst of a global pandemic, this day might actually feel a bit more aligned with what I want it to be.

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