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The Lights and Lessons of Toro Nagashi, the Japanese Candle Boat Ceremony
By Deborah Ager
I missed a lifelong friend’s funeral. But I honored him all the same.
By Kathryn Frey-Balter
I heard about Justice Scalia’s death at one of my last dinners with my beloved, if complicated, father. Months on, as the justice’s seat sat unfilled, so did Dad’s.
My Guide to Finding Love After Loss
By John Duberstein
A totally conventional and easily followed roadmap to emotional transition, by the widower of "The Bright Hour" author.
What Triggers Me Isn’t What You Think It Is
By John Ptacek
Old photos and anniversaries don’t do me in the way one sitcom theme song does.
I Was Given My Grandmother’s Name, But I Took Her Locket
By Virgie Townsend
No matter how many stories I heard, my grandmother remained abstract to me. I needed something tangible to make my grandmother feel real to me.
Bereavement Group Dropout
By Teresa Strasser
Around a table full of widow-baked cookies, I absorbed the most profound of all death clichés, and I was done.
My BFF Makes ‘Your Mom’ Jokes About My Dead Mom — and I Love Her for It
By Theodora Blanchfield
And I love her for it.
The Hummingbirds Who Lightened My Grief
By Jacqueline Dooley
When my daughter died, I hated the sun for rising without her. I wept as the world turned green and flowers burst open. But the backyard birds were a different story.
Unpacking That Last Box — Once and For All
By Li Yin
After my boyfriend died, I clung to his things as a way to stay close to him. Eventually, I realized I didn’t need to.
I Forgot the Anniversary of My Mom’s Death
By Ellen Friedrichs
But there's one deathiversary that I can never put behind me.
Mizuko Kuyo: Japan’s Powerful Pregnancy Loss Ritual
By Erica Goss
At a Buddhist temple far from home, this ceremony provided me solace.
The Lie We Tell Ourselves About Mental Health
By Kelly Matthews
My mom's suicide taught me that there is no clear line dividing those who are of sound mind from those who are not.
Mom’s Memory Was My ‘Something Blue’
By Marisa Renee Lee
How I incorporated my late mother into my wedding celebration. Plus, great tips for memorializing a loved one at your nuptials.
Why I Love IKEA
By Emily Kolby
Shopping there is my wildly commercialized way of keeping my Swedish grandmother’s legacy alive. (Plus, family recipes for Swedish ginger snaps and coffee cake.)
Missing the Goodbye
By Affad Shaikh
For immigrant families like mine, loss can mean mourning from a great distance.
This Funeral Changed How I Feel About Weddings
By Elizabeth Felicetti
Many clergy will admit they would rather perform a funeral than a wedding. I used to be one of them.
Desperately Seeking the Funeral Director With a Matinee Idol Name
By Alana Gautreau
Four years after my grandmother’s death, I was determined to track down — and thank — the mortuary staffer whose kindness (and name) I will never forget.
DNA and Middle C
By Rebecca Odes
My son's resemblance to my father was always striking. But after my dad died, it took on new meaning.
Random Acts of Dadness
By Rob Kutner
From rejecting perfectly good restaurant food to donating to worthy causes, I'm spending the first Father's Day after my dad's death trying to emulate his character.
My Father Is My Grief Mentor
By Debbie Weiss
Dad raised me on his own after Mom died. So when I, too, lost my spouse young, he showed me how to find happiness again.
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