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My Guide to Finding Love After Loss

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A totally conventional and easily followed roadmap to emotional transition, by the widower of "The Bright Hour" author.

I Was Given My Grandmother’s Name, But I Took Her Locket

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No matter how many stories I heard, my grandmother remained abstract to me. I needed something tangible to make my grandmother feel real to me.

The Upside of Anger

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After my mom’s death, I learned to use my all-encompassing anger as a force for good.

What My Dad’s Suicide Taught Me About Resilience  

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A wellness coach offers practical advice for finding your center amid complicated grief.

Resilience column Ask Modern Loss, Adam Grant

‘Resilient’ Is Not a Four Letter Word

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Our guest 'Ask ML' columnist and 'Option B' coauthor Adam Grant on bite-sized — and big — ways to embrace post-traumatic growth.

This Funeral Changed How I Feel About Weddings

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Many clergy will admit they would rather perform a funeral than a wedding. I used to be one of them.

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The Year After My Dad’s Death Was the Best of My Life

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Assuming I was promised a century, I never worried about throwing away a decade. Watching my father die changed that -- for the better.

11 People You Meet in Hell

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Minimizers, vultures, happy morons, competitors at the Sad Olympics and other people you’re bound to encounter on your grief journey.

The Hummingbirds Who Lightened My Grief

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When my daughter died, I hated the sun for rising without her. I wept as the world turned green and flowers burst open. But the backyard birds were a different story.

An Ice Cream Truck at the Funeral

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And 6 other meaningful ways to incorporate food — and cocktails — into a memorial.

Unpacking That Last Box — Once and For All

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After my boyfriend died, I clung to his things as a way to stay close to him. Eventually, I realized I didn’t need to.

How To: Write Your Story

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The author of a guide on writing through grief helps you get started on the essay or memoir that's stuck in your head.

Bring Soup, Not Salad

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And other rules for feeding mourners from a pair of foodies who’ve been there.

Recital Envy

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At my daughters' concerts and school performances, I see all the happy grandparents, snapping photos and bearing flowers. That's when I feel my own mother's loss most acutely.

Sautéing My Way Through Grief

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When my best friend died in a car accident, I felt compelled to take up cooking. Here are three recipes that helped me through.

Dad’s Dead. LOL?

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I used to joke that I wanted to die before my dad. The order didn't work out -- but I found I could still laugh.

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Don’t Call Sheryl Sandberg a Widow

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Modern Loss speaks with the Facebook COO about micro-stepping her way through grief, 'Option B,' and how she approaches those painful trigger holidays.

The Sitcom Widow

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Sizing myself up to DJ Tanner, Carol Brady and Nancy Botwin

A Trauma Therapist’s 3-Part Holiday Grief Plan

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Advice on dealing with All The Feelings during a complicated season.

Modern Loss Self Care

It’s Time to Build Your Self-Care Routine

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Grief gives us little control over ourselves, so it’s vital to control what we can by nourishing our needs. Here are some ideas.

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