Mother Loss

The Motherless Mother I’ve Become

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Life with loss has a new dimension that informs the joy — complicating it and sweetening it, too.

When Twinning is Losing

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With my aunt's death earlier this year, I lost a loving and uncanny living link to my dead mother - her identical twin.

Don’t Talk About How ‘It Gets Better’

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This is what I wish my friends knew when my parents died.

Big Black Sunglasses Modern Loss

My Big Black Sunglasses

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I bought a pair to shield myself during my mother's demise. Little did I know they'd lovingly do so through all types of loss.

How I’m Dealing with Climate Grief

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Sometimes I'm grateful my mom is dead—she gets to avoid witnessing the devastation on Earth. Getting involved in climate justice has given me hope.

The Perverse Pleasure of Grief

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I was repeatedly told to 'get over' my double losses. Instead, I reveled in their depths and heights.

Twitter for Eternity   

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I wish I had more letters from my mother, more time with her, more everything. What I do have, though, is her 16.7K tweets.

The Good China That Will Outlive Us All

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After my mom’s death and my sister’s suicide, the dishes they left behind are newly sentimental.

Letters To My Dead Mother

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I’d imagined these words, penned on the anniversary of Mom’s death, as an emotional storage unit for my grief — only to realize there’s no such thing.

Meet My ‘Dead Mom Friends’ 

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I’ve found kinship (but no judgment or pity) among my friends — and even acquaintances — who have also experienced a loss of a parent. 

7 Ways To Accommodate Little Kids at a Funeral

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Having my kids at my mom’s funeral was the right thing for our family. Here’s what helped.

Dude, Where’s My Grief?

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One guy’s journey through the murky territory of loss, and the map it has left behind.

Take a Chance On Me

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Two days after my mom’s funeral, her friend Velma told me she had a surprise for me — and OMG, did she ever.  

The Show Must Go On

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My mom’s life went dark after cancer won out. But it didn’t mean my beloved theater-going had to as well.

Mother Loss and My Lyft Driver

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I had a five star ride -- but not for the reasons I'd expected.

Saying No to the Fourth

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After my mother died July 4th weekend, I tried to keep celebrating the holiday with cookouts and fireworks — until I found a better way.

The World Cup My Mom Didn’t Live To See

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My late mother was an avid fan of the Peruvian national soccer team. This year “la Blanquirroja” is playing in its first World Cup in more than three decades. As I cheer them on, it’s impossible not to feel sadness and longing.

A Fitting Farewell in Atlantic City

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Here’s how we said goodbye to my clever, caustic, complicated mother.

Putting My Dead Mom in the Cloud

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After stalling for 15 years, I finally have a low touch way to introduce my kids to the vibrant woman I knew.

My Mother’s Day Trifecta

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I lost my mom, my stepmom, and my dream of mothering a child of my own. On Mother’s Day, people say the darndest things to me.

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