Mother Loss

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I Came Out to My Family While Planning My Mother’s Funeral

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Reeling in brand-new grief, I felt more like my true self than ever before.

My Grief Made Me A Warrior

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Single and childless, I was used to doing things on my own. But the aftermath of my mother's death brought my loneliness to a whole new level.

My Mom’s Final Gift to My Girlfriend and Me

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She pushed me away when I came out to her at 30. Right before she died, she pulled me back in.

How Can You Be Happy at a Time Like This?

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What it's like to have your mother die the week Trump was elected.

As a Gay Southern Christian, Rachel Held Evans Was My Lifeline

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The Church has never understood my existence. But Rachel did, and my grief over her death runs deep.

Important Guidelines for Large Adult Orphans

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On the one hand, you must become both parent and child; on the other, you may request to to be flown to Rome for a pasta dinner.

My Mom Wore a Sari So That I Could Run for Congress

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Memories of her valor, grace, and sense of self spurred me on during a campaign filled with racism and sexism.

Writing a Book With My Mom Kept Her Memory Alive

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Now it's time to say goodbye (again).

Five Short Years, Five Whole Years

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Since my daughter was born, time has somersaulted, raced, oozed — giving me new perspective on the few years I had with my own mother.

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I Watched ‘The Avengers: Endgame’ and ‘Game of Thrones’ in the Same Week

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It was both masochism and meaningful, in the throes of grief over my mother's death.

The Motherless Mother I’ve Become

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Life with loss has a new dimension that informs the joy — complicating it and sweetening it, too.

When Twinning is Losing

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With my aunt's death earlier this year, I lost a loving and uncanny living link to my dead mother - her identical twin.

Don’t Talk About How ‘It Gets Better’

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This is what I wish my friends knew when my parents died.

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My Big Black Sunglasses

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I bought a pair to shield myself during my mother's demise. Little did I know they'd lovingly do so through all types of loss.

How I’m Dealing with Climate Grief

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Sometimes I'm grateful my mom is dead—she gets to avoid witnessing the devastation on Earth. Getting involved in climate justice has given me hope.

The Perverse Pleasure of Grief

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I was repeatedly told to 'get over' my double losses. Instead, I reveled in their depths and heights.

Twitter for Eternity   

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I wish I had more letters from my mother, more time with her, more everything. What I do have, though, is her 16.7K tweets.

The Good China That Will Outlive Us All

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After my mom’s death and my sister’s suicide, the dishes they left behind are newly sentimental.

Letters To My Dead Mother

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I’d imagined these words, penned on the anniversary of Mom’s death, as an emotional storage unit for my grief — only to realize there’s no such thing.

Meet My ‘Dead Mom Friends’ 

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I’ve found kinship (but no judgment or pity) among my friends — and even acquaintances — who have also experienced a loss of a parent. 

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